An Open Letter to My Family

(Based on a contributor to Nar-Anon)

I am a drug addict.

I need help – from a doctor, a psychologist, a counselor, from an addict who found recovery in Narcotics Anonymous, and from God.

Don’t solve my problems for me. This only makes me lose respect for you.

Don’t lecture, moralize, scold, blame, or argue – whether I’m loaded or not. It will make you feel better, but it will make the situation worse.

Don’t accept my promises. The nature of my illness prevents me from keeping them, even though I may mean them at the time. Promises are only a way of postponing pain.

Don’t keep switching agreements, if an agreement is made – stick to it.

Don’t lose your temper with me. It will destroy you and any possibility of helping me.

Don’t allow your anxiety for me make you do for me what I should be doing for myself.

Don’t cover up trying to spare me the consequences of my using. It may reduce the crisis but it will make my illness worse.

Above all don’t run away from reality as I do. Drug dependence, my illness, only gets worse as the using continues.

Start now to learn, to understand, to plan for recovery.  Find Nar-Anon, whose groups exist to help families of drug abusers.